In today’s age of progress, our personal lives have become another aspect to analyse in terms of ‘achievement’. The guidelines for ‘achievement’ are laid out in each society, depending on age, gender and income. The milestones an individual is expected to meet are determined by what stage of life they’re going through. However, despite what category you are in – high school, career, university, children and marriage – the question of relationship status is always a top priority on the list.
I’ve just broken up with my boyfriend of three-and-a-half years. I won’t go into details, but in short, long distance relationships don’t work. He has been a part of my personality since I was 16 – people know ‘us’ probably more than they know me. And now, single life looms ahead of me in a vaguely exciting, vaguely terrifying way. I’m sure that I will encounter the question soon enough – ‘Are you seeing anyone?’ ‘Not really, but I am very involved with four women at the moment who live in the city and like sex…’, will by my answer to the person preparing to do a fake disappointed ‘Ohh…I’m sure you’ll find someone soon.’
Being single has a terrible stigma in our society. Advertising shoves the notion down our throats that you can only be happy if you’re in a relationship (or having sex). But what’s so bad about it?
Cons of being single:
1. You obviously don’t have a relationship with someone,
2. Which involves love,
3. And regular sex.
But some pros include:
1. Dodging the complex intricacies of relationships which can often lead to a loss of love and sex.
2. You are able to have sex with anyone: the cute guy who washes the dishes at your cafe, the older guy at the bar winking at you, the girl on the tram with blue hair (Blue is the Warmest Colour fantasy, anyone?).
3. You’re free to sing along to Single Ladies and feel a connection to that song which you never felt before.
Finding the “One” seems to be such a large part of people’s lives. But how about finding yourself? Loving yourself? Being happy with who you are when you’re alone? In the end, we die alone. We need to cultivate the perfect relationship with ourselves before we can be truly happy with another.